The other night as I was having drinks with Su, Wan and some of their friends at New Asia Bar, the topic of discussion swerved toward the issue of dumb but good looking men. Certain ex-boyfriends were mentioned as examples and everyone around the table nodded. (which was scary as it does appear that everyone knows everyone in Singapore)
In the end, I think it was agreed quite unanimously that as much as men wouldn't mind dating women with big breasts, neither do women. We don't mind vases. Bimbos or men with as much substance as amoebae. It just that it would probably stop at that. Dating. It would never progress into a relationship because there must be some form of intellectual connection necessary in order to go into the next step.
Once that was agreed by all. There was a sudden silence, which was broken by the statement made by A, " You know, I can't have man who is dumber than me. You know, I just wouldn't feel secure... " She explained that she doesn't require a man who is more academically inclined, just someone who has more general knowledge or street smarts.
That struck a chord with me for some reason.
You see, there lies the conundrum we know as women. The modern woman wants to feel dominated in some areas (if not there is no sense of security) but not in others. We men are expected to know the difference and to strike a balance. (How? That still defeats me.)
The conversation went along this track for awhile, and Su made a stunning conclusion.
You see, women pretend to be weak and fragile so that we men feel good about ourselves. We think we are in control, you know, doing the whole man thing of buying them drinks, opening doors et cetera, but actually they are the ones in control. Sheesh. As Gill Grissom said in one episode of CSI, in an S & M relationship, the submissives are the ones in control.
How true. Oh well, either way men look at it, we are screwed. (or as long as we are... haha)
Women, can't live with them, can't live without.
Once that was agreed by all. There was a sudden silence, which was broken by the statement made by A, " You know, I can't have man who is dumber than me. You know, I just wouldn't feel secure... " She explained that she doesn't require a man who is more academically inclined, just someone who has more general knowledge or street smarts.
That struck a chord with me for some reason.
You see, there lies the conundrum we know as women. The modern woman wants to feel dominated in some areas (if not there is no sense of security) but not in others. We men are expected to know the difference and to strike a balance. (How? That still defeats me.)
The conversation went along this track for awhile, and Su made a stunning conclusion.
You see, women pretend to be weak and fragile so that we men feel good about ourselves. We think we are in control, you know, doing the whole man thing of buying them drinks, opening doors et cetera, but actually they are the ones in control. Sheesh. As Gill Grissom said in one episode of CSI, in an S & M relationship, the submissives are the ones in control.
How true. Oh well, either way men look at it, we are screwed. (or as long as we are... haha)
Women, can't live with them, can't live without.
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