I have been thinking about this issue of toxic friends a lot recently.
We all have them, whether by choice or not.
You know, these are the ones who take more than they give, may be a bad influence in your life, who burden you with their problems, who simply, are bad for you. You just know that they are bad for you.
Why do we still hang around these toxic people? Well one reason could be because there has been no impetus – the thought might have crossed your mind, but you just never mustered the effort to push them away.
Or, they recently became toxic. Or they are part of this group of other non-toxic people that you hang out with. The reasons are numerous.
One new category of toxic friends are those people who are actually good people. But because of how you treat them, or maybe you have a romantic interest in them, they become bad for you – they make you distance yourself away from how you should be as a person.
I have come to the realization that 2009 must be the Year of Me. That I need to make myself a good person and bring joy to those around me. And step one, is to cut out all these toxic friends (well, at least those that I know off anyway).
Caught this movie last night. Be forewarned - it is NOT a good date movie. However, it is a good laugh-at-yourself, dating guide for single people. I think the cinema last night was mainly single people anyway.
Acting was not the best, but the storyline held it together. I would strongly recommend the movie.
Perhaps, after it, you can tell me which character you relate mostly to?
(Here's the reply the teacher received the following day) Dear Mrs. Jones, I wish to clarify that I am not now, nor have I ever been, an exotic dancer. I work at Home Depot and I told my daughter how hectic it was last week before the blizzard hit. I told her we sold out every single shovel we had, and then I found one more in the back room, and that several people were fighting over who would get it. Her picture doesn't show me dancing around a pole. It's supposed to depict me selling the last snow shovel we had at Home Depot. From now on I will remember to check her homework more thoroughly before she turns it in. Sincerely, Mrs. Smith
Went to watch this movie the other night. Must say, the acting by Cate Blanchett and Brad Pitt was awesome. And the young Cate looked great (its all CGI though).
But 3 hours and a stiff neck later, you ask yourself, yes, it was an okay movie, but what was the point behind it all?
There was neither a message, nor action to make up for the lack of a message.
Parvinder and Habib are beggars. They beg in different areas of London. Habib begs just as long as Parvinder but only collects £2 to £3 every day. However, Parvinder brings home a suitcase FULL of £10 notes, drives a Mercedes, lives in a mortgage-free house and has a lot of money to spend.
A puzzled Habib asks Parvinder 'I work just as long and hard as you do but how do you bring home a suitcase full of £10 notes every day?'
Parvinder says, 'Look at your sign, what does it say'? Habib's sign reads 'I have no work, a wife and 6 kids to support'.
Parvinder says 'No wonder you only get £2- £3!!'
Habib says... 'So what does your sign say'?
Parvinder shows Habib his sign....
It reads, *'I only need just another £10 to move back to Pakistan '.
This post is inspired by my brief conversation with the cleaning lady on my floor.
Basically, I had asked her if she had bought tickets for the $10million Hong Bao Draw. Her response? That she will never strike and hence won't buy.
I think the attitude to be positive and hence act to do things which seem to put one on the right track to move upwards is crucial. These acts may or may not bear fruit, but its better to have done them than to sit on one's ass and do nothing.
Unlike some lucky few, things don't always fall on our laps. We need to fight tooth and nail to get what we want.
Sure we might pick up some injuries along the way, but I would rather have tried and failed, than never to have tried at all.
So the next time someone complains to me that she has no friends, hates her job, is generally miserable, I will say that its her fault, for not having the attitude to take control and effect change in her life in the first place.
A cynic not by nature but because of the experiences of life. Likes to take things slow ,easy and as they come. Enjoys a good book and the quiet company of myself. Loves alcohol to a fault.