Its like fate slapping me in my face.
Over the past week, somehow or another, a few of my guy friends have confided in me about their recent bouts of unfaithfulness to their partners.
The most recent was this morning, when a friend told me that he had an "incident" (well, actually twice) with a girl in his car along East Coast over the weekend. This girl apparently is smitten with him and acknowledges that he has a girlfriend.
He doesn't know who to choose. A, his girlfriend, has been with him for 4 years. His family loves her and I know he does too. The only thing is, that he feels that the relationship has stagnated over the years. It just ain't exciting anymore.
S is the girl. She is young, apparently, hotter than A and desires him. She is willing to wait, and at the moment, doesn't mind playing second fiddle. He likes her, or at least what he sees of her at the moment.
I told him to keep his d*ck in his pants while he decided amongst the 2. But...
I say its a slap in the face cos I don't believe in cheating on a partner. Taking a break from the relationship and exploring options is one thing, but to lie about who you are with and where you are to see another person is another. Why, is the world like that? That people do not cherish what they have?
But then again, who am I to judge eh? I wish him luck. Cos sooner or later, shite will hit the fan.
Over the past week, somehow or another, a few of my guy friends have confided in me about their recent bouts of unfaithfulness to their partners.
The most recent was this morning, when a friend told me that he had an "incident" (well, actually twice) with a girl in his car along East Coast over the weekend. This girl apparently is smitten with him and acknowledges that he has a girlfriend.
He doesn't know who to choose. A, his girlfriend, has been with him for 4 years. His family loves her and I know he does too. The only thing is, that he feels that the relationship has stagnated over the years. It just ain't exciting anymore.
S is the girl. She is young, apparently, hotter than A and desires him. She is willing to wait, and at the moment, doesn't mind playing second fiddle. He likes her, or at least what he sees of her at the moment.
I told him to keep his d*ck in his pants while he decided amongst the 2. But...
I say its a slap in the face cos I don't believe in cheating on a partner. Taking a break from the relationship and exploring options is one thing, but to lie about who you are with and where you are to see another person is another. Why, is the world like that? That people do not cherish what they have?
But then again, who am I to judge eh? I wish him luck. Cos sooner or later, shite will hit the fan.
11 comments:
men are not built for monogamy
or I'm just cynical
I agree that men have issues with monogamy. Heck, besides penguins and dolphins, there are no other animals that keep to one partner for life. Maybe its just Nature.
Perhaps it is also because we have our sexual organs external... there might be a reason for that, you know.
Which animals have them internal?
Fish.
When I said 'ours'. I meant men. Or the male species at large.
Because you were comparing humans to animals, noting that would not be a fair comparison.
It's all a relative level of values and morales eh? And it is fine to stick to your own set.
I do think I'm sitting on my own set of values. I'm not judging him per se, in fact I'm giving him advice on how to get out of his predicament. Haha.
really? There is a way out without him feeling frustrated in any way at the end? He has a Pandora's box (no pun intended) he's sitting on and can't wait to open.
How? pray tell. share your sage advice.
i think i did take it pretty well. But pretty well is also relative. haha.
I think it has nothing to do with whether you're a man or a woman. I know just as many women who cheat on their men, in fact more. But I dont think its right to judge, I prefer to kindof see it as something a person does when they are insecure about themselves and a new person makes them feel more confident, or maybe, in the rare case u do find someone new who you actually fall in love with (making you realise that you arent really in love with the one you are with). But even then I agree with you, its better to break up than lie and cheat... I mean whats the point right..
If interested, can read "The Red Queen". It has an interesting theory why men tend to sleep around more. Has something to do with each gender's role in the process of reproduction.
your friend felt that his relationship with gf has stagnant over time? C'mon lah....it takes 2 hands to clap lor....ask him what has he done to keep his relationship exciting?
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